Dating at times is too complicated for many. In spite of being “connected” with many people via web 2. 0, many singles still realize it’s an almost impossible task to look for their loved ones, develop and maintain some satisfying intimate relationship.

Time and again I see singles who, without even knowing it, shoot themselves in the foot in family relationships. Being unaware of doing so, they do not know what they need to change in order to succeed next time around.

Taking guilt for your success or failure at relationships is a key to making a significant switch leading to success. It is only once you take responsibility and be truly motivated to understand, once and for all, what hinders your efforts that you embark on the road to help you success.

It can be as if meeting “the right person” stays only some dream. Many singles vacation resort to hiring personal motor coachs, advisors or dating advisors with the task of matching them with the “right” person, convincing themselves that they are just too busy to look, look and find.

It is when you ask yourself these – and other – questions; when you check inwards and observe yourself; and when you develop ones Self-Awareness, that you can finally de-activate the power these factors have exerted upon you, and free yourself to re-think the way you approach partners and relationships.

Subsequently, it makes no difference on how many dates they go and how many relationships they will attempt to develop: they are unsuccessful over and over again, for the simple factor that they just never take time to understand what they do that harms their attempts.

But is it really so? Is it really a deficiency of time that inhibits these from finding the right person? Or simply could it be that even when they meet a potential spouse many singles just have no idea how to develop a healthy and successful relationship? Could it be that they are unaware of the many ways in which that they sabotage their attempts for intimacy?

Taking responsibility means: you decide, once and for all, to become alert to a host of factors which inturn drive you to fail in your relationships. Could it be your perceptions towards the other sex? May these be your worries and needs which travel you to behave in self-sabotaging ways? Could these become messages you internalized at a young age about how romantic relationships “should” look like – messages which now, as any, come back to haunt you?

Self-Awareness might be the only streets you haven’t taken at this point in your attempts to find a spouse with whom to develop a booming intimacy. Paradoxically enough, could potentially be the only road which can take on your there.

May possibly these be unrealistic outlook and fantasies about lovers and relationships which drive you to expect the difficult (and blame your companions time and again)? May this be your understanding of reality, being won over that “your way” of thinking, feeling and working on things is always “the proper way”, and your partner’s “the wrong way”?

That they therefore resort to finding one and thousand excuses to justify their failures, in no way the least is: shortage of energy. Resorting to dating services is one way to not take guilt for their failed attempts. “Let someone else do the job”, they tell themselves, “Then it will not be my main responsibility for yet another failed attempts. “